Divorce: God’s Will? The Truth of Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible for Christians

God, through the voice of Paul, says marriage is permanent, and says to NOT divorce your spouse and if you do, to remain single. What’s to question here?? People try and try and try to justify divorce, but God’s words are truly simple and easy to understand. Divorce is tearing at the very fabric of our society: the very institution of marriage (which was God’s design to begin with) is being torn apart, and society suffers. “No fault” divorce laws are handing out escape clauses right and left; there are very few states that uphold marriage in any way anymore, very few that even require counseling before granting a divorce. Our laws do not even pretend to protect marriage and families. And “no fault” divorce laws are actually “no reason” divorce laws. We do not even have to stand up like adults and take responsibility for our attempts to end our marriages, the courts do not even ask us to give a REASON in many states. A person, a husband or wife, parent, can just wake up one morning and decide they’re no longer “happy” or comfortable or entertained or decide they’ve seen something they want more than what they have, and that’s that for that family. The weaker person is the one that gets their way - the other spouse doesn’t matter, the children do not matter, the only thing that matters is that someone has decided they’re not having a great time anymore. I’ve seen what divorce does to children, and there’s no excuse for how easy we’ve made it to get up and leave one’s family. Children are growing up in broken homes, having “new” dads and moms, watching their parents “date” - their parents, the adults in their lives, should be the ones most consistent and stable, instead now they’re dating and remarrying and then more than likely divorcing yet again. Children grow up thinking this is the normal, acceptable way to handle marriage and family and relationships, and it is not. God designed marriage, He said it’s permanent and sacred…we are the ones who came up with divorce, we are the ones justifying the breaking of vows and the shattering of homes. God designed family, and He tells us in the New Testament that children NEED their parents, their home, but again we find ways to justify going against this as well. God tells us it’s better to never make a vow than to make one to Him or before Him and then break it. Again - what’s so hard to understand about THAT? We don’t even know what commitment is anymore. You don’t like your car, trade it in. You don’t like your job, quit. You don’t like your husband or wife anymore, toss them and get a new one. You don’t like your marriage anymore, try again (and again) with another one. Where exactly in the bible does God tell us our own happiness is the most important thing? Why do we put limits on what God can do with a hurting marriage, then turn around and try to explain it away by suggesting divorce may be His will anyway? No, divorce is NOT God’s will: restoration, resurrection, reconciliation is God’s will. Families staying together is God’s will; vows being kept and held sacred is God’s will. God wants us HOLY more than He wants just our happiness. Jesus tells us to be LIKE HIM, and guess what? Jesus never gave up on anyone. He loved, even when betrayed and hurt, and He forgave. We certainly don’t expect Jesus to decide we’re hopeless and not worth saving, do we? If Jesus were to take the attitude with us that we take with marriage, we’d all be heading straight to hell, with no ways out.
Rating: 1 / 5
Divorce: God’s Will? The Truth of Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible for Christians

Many people who read this book are going to question how this man can say the things he say. BUT As i look around the “church” and see all the condemnation passed on to those who have gone through divorce I have to wonder if maybe this guy has it right on the head. I know that those who have read it said that it helped them not feel so completely shamed… even when the divorce is not their fault.

What he says and the things that he points out are helpful to those going through it… though I dont agree with the thought that “divorce is ok”…

Rating: 5 / 5
Divorce: God’s Will? The Truth of Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible for Christians